09.10.06
I’ll Be The Damsel In Distress, You Be My Knight In Shining Armor
In listening to relationship therapists, that seem to be coming out of the woodwork these days, what they seem to be saying to the women and girls are ~You are not a Princess and you are not going to have a Knight in Shining Armor come and rescue you ~End of Fairy Tale. So now what do we do? Re-write?
I am becoming more and more aware, in my search for Mr. Lovely, of how many single moms, in particular, there are. Hence a bigger need for Knights on White Horses but also an increasing number of women who are strong, independent, self sufficient, and in charge of the household. Speaking for myself, this has been an 8 year learning process. One that I have not been happy about at times and one I have actually been very angry about at times. I did not ask to be head of household. I did not ask to raise these kids on my own. I did not ask to be totally in charge and independent.
No wonder men are confused and women are crazy! Nobody knows how to act anymore. All these little girls growing up with the same fairy tales the boys were read. Okay, the same basic story line one was just called Snow White and one was called Robin Hood. Same story, one written from the guys point of view and one written by the damsel-in-distrss herself.
So, we are coming more into a day where we women just need a partner. A loving, respectful, considerate, let me be me and you be you partner. This should take the pressure off the guys to some extent. They no longer have to know how to resuce. They now just have to know how to be a friend. And that would include knowing when to give a hug and knowing when to back off. I just said we didn’t need a rescuer, I never said we weren’t still emotional females.
And you, my man, can still go hunting. Or watch ESPN. Or scratch yourself. Or have your friends over and talk too loud and make disgusting noises. And I will still let you wash the cars and do the yard work. Remember, I agree there are male and female roles. I just can’t do the damsel-in-distress.
